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Anger Management

Anger levels are different among various people. Many people can manage their anger skillfully while others cannot handle their anger at all and it becomes uncontrollable rage. To know the difference between the two means being able to identify the type of anger that you have. When you have this information you will be able to make proper and informed choices on the ways to treat it or if you should seek help.

Behavioral Anger

When somebody experiences behavioral anger they tend to be or become very aggressive and tends to confront the other person that is causing the reason behind the anger. Usually this is another person anyways. Trouble making, physical harm, and defiance are the regular ways that people tend to express behavioral anger.

Overwhelming Anger

This is an expression of anger because this person does not enjoy the situation that they are involved in and will sometimes feel this type of anger. To get out of this type of situation the person that possesses this type of anger will often try to hurt other people or himself verbally or physically.

Self-inflicted Anger

The person that has this type of anger is often angry with himself or herself for something that they have done in the past. They will often try to harm themselves with something and this is a very dangerous anger to possess.

Retaliatory Anger

This is the most commonly associated type of anger involved with men. This often occurs when a person gets angry and somebody because that other person is first angry with them.

Chronic Anger

Somebody experiencing chronic anger usually doesn't even need a reason to be come angry. They often just hate their life, their self, their job, other people, and basically the entire world.

Verbal Anger

Obviously by the title this is anger that is expressed by words instead of actions. Generally these words are insulting to the other person involved in the confrontation.

Paranoid Anger

Somebody with paranoid anger is generally intimated by others and may even be jealous of others. This anger often turns into hating anybody around him even though they may have not done anything wrong.

Constructive Anger

Somebody that has this type of anger usually wants to fix something that they have done wrong in the past. Generally people involved in protests and movements possesses this type of anger.

Judgmental Anger

Similar but not the same as verbal anger somebody that has this type of anger often wants to show their superiority. They will often express their emotion by putting others down or making fun of their abilities in front of others to show off.

Passive Anger

Somebody who has this type of anger does not show it, at least not directly. They will often verbally assault, mock, or treat the person involved in their anger differently.

Deliberate Anger

Somebody feeling this type of anger generally wants to assert control over a situation and a group of people. Generally they try to gain the control through a conflict with another person.

Volatile Anger

Volatile anger covers a very large spectrum of emotions. It can come and go very easily and range from mild anger to severe rage. It will often be expressed through verbal or physical abuse. The level of this anger will depend on the person who is controlling it and their own proficiency at anger management.

Aravind T..

Ref :

Mother...

God created mother coz

He can’t be present everywhere…

But I feel god made mother coz,

He can’t fill that place…

never have I learnt anything

than in her cradle

never I felt any love,

than in her cuddle…

the stairway to heaven in her mothers lap

the doorway of love is in her eyes

safer were the days

where I clasp her hands and stroll…

friends stands nowhere in sharing,

even god lags in wen it comes abt caring…

its mother..

a day might come where

friendship may fade away

love may droop off

wen u turn back, she will be there

wit arms open to say

come my dear!

the only heart which will luv u

even if u hate,

da only being in this world,

which takes all da pain, for ur gain…

u cry, she will cry,

u laugh, she laughs,

u love, she loves

u hate, still she loves…

ma, hold my hands

coz.. if i hold, ya chances r there, dat I might loose u,

but by all means I know,

by no means u will loose me…

the beauty that an angel envy,

the smile that all da flowers in world cant,

her words which hems in all meaning…

Aravind T..

2011 Cricket World Cup

The 2011 ICC Cricket World Cup was the tenth Cricket World Cup. It was played in India, Sri Lanka, and Bangladesh. It was Bangladesh's first time co-hosting a World Cup. The World Cup was also supposed to be co-hosted by Pakistan, but in the wake of the 2009 attack on the Sri Lanka national cricket team in Lahore, the International Cricket Council (ICC) decided to strip Pakistan of its hosting rights. The headquarters of the organising committee were originally situated in Lahore, but have now been shifted to Mumbai. Pakistan was supposed to hold 14 matches, including one semi-final. Eight of Pakistan's matches (including the semi-final) were awarded to India, four to Sri Lanka and two to Bangladesh.

All matches in the World Cup were accorded One Day International status, with all matches being played over 50 overs. Fourteen national cricket teams competed in the tournament, including ten full members and four associate members. The World Cup took place between February and 2nd April 2011, with the first match played on 19 February 2011 with co-hosts India and Bangladesh facing off at the Sher-e-Bangla National Stadium in Mirpur, Dhaka. The opening ceremony was held on 17 February 2011 at Bangabandhu National Stadium, Dhaka, two days before the start of the tournament, with the final on 2 April 2011 between India and Srilanka at Wankhede Stadium, Mumbai.

The tournament was won by India who defeated Sri Lanka by 6 wickets. India became the first nation to win a world cup final on home soil. Captain Mahendra Singh Dhoni played a captain's knock of unbeaten 91 in the final and was adjudged man of the match. The biggest upset of the ICC Cricket World Cup 2011 was the defeat of England by Ireland. Ireland's Kevin O'Brien made 100 in just 50 balls (and a total of 113 off 63 balls), the fastest World Cup Century. Also Ireland made the highest successful run chase in World Cup history beating Sri Lanka's 313 against Zimbabwe at New Plymouth in New Zealand in 1992.

Aravind T..

7 Ways To Overcome Problems

Problems are only Problems when we define them as such. They are really learning events. As the saying goes...If it doesn't kill you , then it can only make you stronger. Whenever we encounter a problem we should try to look at it indifferently. No matter how bad it may be, know for sure that 99% of Problems are solvable. When setting goals or designing a house, a blue print, a plan is needed. The same applies to Problems. We need a plan.

Following are 7 ways to get out of almost any situation:

1. Accept full responsibility for the problem- accepting full responsibility for the problem is the first sign of making sure the problem gets solved. Do not blame people, events or circumstances for your situation..One way or another , your choices in life have brought you to this point. Seek to own the problem.

2. Define the problem exactly---Ask yourself: What is the problem exactly? How did it happen?Get the facts! Seek to state your problem in your own words. It helps to provide more clarity on the situation. Also ask, what else is the problem? You'll be surprised to know that what you initially thought was the problem, was in truth something very different.

3. Next ask yourself: what is the worst possible thing that could happen if this problem is not solved? Then proceed to accept the worst. Be prepared to cut your losses. It will calm your mind in such a way that you wont believe!

4. Now with a calmer mind ask yourself: What are the possible solutions to this problem? Make a list! Brainstorm! Evaluate all the possible solutions. You'll be surprised at all the answers that will come to you.

5. Choose the best solution. Then seek to take action immediately. You dont have to get it right , you just have to get it going. Be prepared to accept alternative solutions.

6. Turn over your problem to your higher power. Before you go to bed at night or before a meditation session, turn your problems over to God, the Universe, Divine intelligence or whatever you label your higher power. You'll be surprised at how many new insights you receive, especially in the morning when you wake up.

7. Every Solution has a Problem. Focus on the endresults. Focus on what you desire to achieve and not on what you don't want. Your thoughts, feelings, intentions and actions create your reality. Make sure that you are always thinking of the solution. As long as your goal is clear, those problems will vanish in thin air. Persist until you succeed!

Remember .....Its just a learning event!

Stop chasing Freedom......Attract it!

Aravind T..

100 ways to live upto 100 years..

The tips and suggestions given below are deep research and collection of author for the last 30 years in this field. They are most authentic and tested in most of the cases. The suggestions given here can be adopted in your life without any doubt as they don't have any side effect and based on the laws of nature.

Foods Take food less than your hunger - It has been established through experiments that the life expectancy of a person goes up two times, if his food intake is reduced by 40%. The Golden gifts of the nature for you:- Pomegranate (Anar)- Contains all the important minerals and vitamins required by our body Honey - Collected from flowers, a superb gift from nature. Coconut water - The water of green coconut lifted from the earth, and after processing at many stages stores the health nectar with great potentialities of health and vigour. Amla - provides us with many essential vitamins, best for all types of heart diseases. Bel - the superb gift from nature, highly useful for stomach ailments and digestive system. Take vegetarian and fibrous foods (All raw vegetables and fruits fall in this category) - avoid fried and greasy food.. Take your meals preferably two times a day- Avoid meals after sunset Food in less quantity but of high nutritious value can lead to a longer and healthier life.. Include in your daily diet - Curd, Amla, Sprouted black grams, Apple, Honey, Almonds, Soyabeans, Lemon, Raw Onion, Garlic (preferably roasted -avoid raw) Daily intake of green leafy vegetables in large quantity eliminates the wrinkles on face. There are instances of people having improved their eyesight by eating these only. Yellow ripe Pumpkin (Sitafal) contains beta- Carotene, as found in Carrots and gives energy to the heart. Totally avoid Tea and coffee - They contain toxic substances, which damage the liver in the long run. Tea takes approximately 6 hours to digest and plays havoc with the metabolism of the body. Continuous consumption of tea or coffee is said to result in damage to modular oblongata, which links up all body nerves with the brain, and therefore, controls all body functions. Avoid Sugar as far as possible, it brings Aging, Cataract and Acidity. Keep fast atleast for one day in a week taking only fruits. Keep fast atleast for 24 hour in a fortnight taking only water. Keep fast atleast for a day every month, without water. Instead of bed-tea take hot water. Daily drink water kept in a copper vessel overnight, with magnet kept underneath it. Drink water with Rudraaksha beads soaked in it overnight. At least three times a week take dry fruits/ nuts like Almonds, Peanuts, Raisin etc. Keep changing your cooking oils to supply the body with all types of necessary nutrients. Don’t take salt in excess. Use as little salt as possible. Just observe that any food provided by nature is never salty in taste, it is always plain, sour or sweet. Excessive salt corrodes our body like sea water, which is never allowed to be drunk even if a person is thirsty. Add following sprouts to your daily diet: Black grams sprouts - for heart and diabetes. Moong (Green lentil) sprouts - a general tonic Methi (Fenugreek) seed sprouts - For activeness and diabetes. Soyabeans - Contains 9 types of proteins Wheat grains sprouts- for vitamin E and long life Bottle Gourd (Ghia) - It is packed with nutrition, and recommended for high blood pressure and urinary disorders.

Food supplements & general tonics Vitamin B complex is the most useful and effective diet supplement and should be added to your daily intake of meals. It is mostly found in the uncooked sprouts of different grains. Bio-chemic combination no -28 , which contains all the 12 essential salts for the body should be taken regularly. It is a general tonic and should be taken after meals to prevent common diseases. Daily intake of vitamin C (Ascorbic acid) increases life span of body. Remember all dairy products produce heart diseases - try to avoid them or restrict their quantity. Remember all types of spices produce cardiovascular diseases.

Exercise & Yoga Human body is like an automobile it needs the following:- Lubrication - Proper exercise is the lubrication of body, it increase circulation and flexibility.. Battery charging - Solar plexus is the battery of body and is charged through Pranayam, the yogic breathing. Cooling Systems - Relaxation provides the cooling of body. Fuel - Proper diet, food, air, water and sunlight provides the fuel for body Balanced Driver - Mind is the driver of body. It can be balanced and controlled by meditation and concentration Do light exercises regularly. Don’t do strenuous exercises like fast running, body building as they increase the metabolism rate of your body Brisk walking is the best exercise to keep control on diabetes and heart problems By living at a cold place (Hill stations), the metabolism rate of the body decreases and the age increases Deep breathing up to the naval and retaining it for sometime helps in increasing the life span of a person The normal ratio of our breathing i.e. inhaling, retaining and exhaling should be 1:4:2 Keep your posture erect Try inhaling the breath from left nostril during day time and from right nostril during the night time Our internal organs are more important as our outer organs in keeping us healthy. So to keep the liver, stomach and lungs etc in a healthy state. Daily walking in the morning and evening is very essential. It is possible to even reverse the heart problems by not using oil or ghee at all, by taking only boiled vegetables, doing yogic exercises, and by living a tension free life.

Mind, Temperament and way of living There is no yoga greater than the control of mind. Keep your mind busy and active with lot of physical work. Keep yourself happy and at peace - avoid anger and hot temperament By meditation, high blood pressures, forgetfulness & aging process can be controlled Keep enchanting the Maha-mritunjaya Mantra in case of health problems. Take life as it comes, don’t get disturbed by the ups and downs of life. Eat & drink in moderation, have religious faith, work hard and adopt the habit of early to bed and early to rise. It was the finding of survey done in Japan, that a large portion of centenarians were engaged in the Agriculture or Forestry as their primary jobs.

Miscellaneous Take hot water after every meals to control the fatness and improve digestion. Early in the morning, without cleaning your teeth of mouth drink a glass of water so that all the accumulated sliva in your mouth goes back to your stomach. This method in principal is similar to homoeopathy and is used widely in Japan to prolong the life span and cure many diseases automatically. Mr Morarji Desai, the former Prime-Minister of India resorted to auto-urine therapy when he had tried all types of therapies and failed to get any cure out of them. After washing your face with water don’t wipe it off. Let it dry itself on the face. It keeps the face skin young and healthy. Sleep with your head towards south., it helps to improve the blood circulation of body, due to the body’s alignment with earth’s magnetic field. Sleep with the leg side of your bed higher than your head side. It increases the blood circulation of your body more towards head side. It keeps you young and rejuvenates your body functions. Take magnetic water -You can prepare it by keeping a glass of water with two magnets, one on top with north pole facing downward and second under it with south pole facing up, kept overnight and drink in the morning. Daily intake of Aspirin, even one fourth of a 100mg tablet, avoids chances of heart attacks. Aspirin stops the Aging process by keeping the tissues flexible - it is also good for eyes. (Take only with the advice of doctor.) Daily apply a drop of mustard oil mixed with some water into your nostrils. It is beneficial for your eyes and keeps the breathing passage clear and smooth. Daily rub mustard oil on the toe of your feet, it helps in the improvement of eyesight. Smoking, or intake of tobacco in any form narrows down the arteries and restricts the blood circulation. The secret of Chinese who lived up to 250 Years - Even in modern times there is an instance of a Chinese whose name was “Lichigian” who reached to a life span of 250 years using the great Indian herb called India Pennywort (Brahmi). He said he is regularly using this Indian herb and he has achieved such a long life by regularly using this herb. Available for the benefit of our web friends - The secrets of people who lived to more than 100 years at very nominal cost through email or in printed form - It also includes the recipes of soups and juices which one must have daily to prolong his life span. A very useful and a must for every one. – Don’t miss the Golden Opportunity as you have only one life to live. Aravind T.. Ref:

The World’s First Hack-free Software

Nice to imagine a software which can openly tease the entire hacking community, isn’t it? And such a software is now available courtesy of the Open Kernel Labs which has named it “seL4”. It is basically a micro-kernel (or an Operating system kernel) which restricts access to your hardware based on preferences. The software identifies who is genuine and who is not; in technical terms which software is a malware and which is not.

seL4 has been mathematically proven to operate without glitches even after being implemented. Will it be able to stop malicious programs or not, time will be the best judge. But if it does succeed what I believe would be the start of another generation of anti-virus mechanism which would be far more advanced than what anti-virus can do today. It would become a secure platform for Banks and Stock markets to run without the fear of hacking and malware. However the technology might take time to become available for general use and till then we shall need to rely on our present anti-virus software only

Aravind T..

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Pongal Traditions

Traditions & Customs

Inspite of immense urbanization, the traditions and customs attached to the harvest festival of Pongal has not diminished. Though the nature of these tradition and customs has changed, the glitter of this festival has not dimmed. The fast changing times notwithstanding, certain things do not change. The way we celebrate the festivals, for instance. The festival of Pongal captures the quintessence of south Indian culture in all its entirety and traditional practices and customs continue to hold their own even today.

The spirit is alive and Pongal is still treated as a time to discard the old and welcome the new. The new crop that is harvested is cooked and offered to the Almighty. Celebrated for four days, the various traditions and customs of this harvest festival are:

Bhogi Pongal

The first day of Pongal known as 'Bhogi Pongal' is a day for family gathering and is dedicated to Lord Indra, the king of the deities and God of the Clouds and Rains. Offerings are made to him to please him so that he blesses us for the plentiful harvest. It is also the beginning of the New Year according to the Malayalam calendar and before sunrise, a huge bonfire of useless things in home is lit that is kept burning throughout the night. All the time, boys beat little buffalo-hide drums known as 'Bhogi Kottus'. The houses are then cleaned till they shine and are decorated with Kolams painted using rice four. There are yellow pumpkin flowers are set in cow-dung balls in the middle of these designs.

Surya Pongal

The second day of Pongal known as 'Surya Pongal' is dedicated to the Sun God. The granaries are kept full on this day and Sun God with his rays are painted on a plank as he is worshiped with the birth of the new auspicious month of Thai. Since the word 'Ponga' means 'to boil' representing plentiful and excess yield, a special dish is cooked on this day in a new mud-pot that comes in innovative shapes and have artistic designs on them called 'Pongapani'. The special dish is called 'Sarkkarai Pongal' and is offered to Sun God with sugarcane sticks. It is said that Lord Sundareshwar performed a miracle on this day in the Madurai temple and breathed life into a stone elephant who ate sugarcanes. One can see the depiction of the event in the Meenakshi temple.

Mattu Pongal

The third day known as 'Mattu Pongal' is dedicated to the cattle as cowherds and shepherds pay thanks to their cows and bulls, paint their horns and cover them with shining metal caps. They are fed 'Pongal' and tinkling bells are tied around their neck. Cattle races are conducted and in the game called 'Manji Virattu' groups of young men chase running bulls. Bull fights called 'Jallikattu' are also arranged at some places where young men have to take the money bags tied to the horns of ferocious bulls single-handedly and without the use of arms. Lord Ganesha and Goddess Parvati are also worshiped on this day. At some other places, this day is celebrated as Kanu Pongal when girls feed colored balls of cooked rice to the birds and crows and pray for their brothers' happiness and that they always remember them.

Kaanum Pongal

The fourth day is termed as Kaanum Pongal. On this day, people travel to see other family members. On this day, the younger members of the family pay homage to the elders, and the elders thank them by giving token money. Another thing many do is leave food out on banana leaves for birds to take. Many South Indian people will take the first bit of rice cooked in any given day and set it outside for the crows to take, so this is not necessarily a habit only for Pongal.

Aravind T..